Growth is Painful

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M6pNk0Cmnkg

is growth painful in any respect at this

point mentally it is like total

transformation

yes sometimes it is painful

by painful i mean uncomfortable because

the old is being dropped but the mind

has a tendency to cling to the old it

has attachments

and when these attachments are broken

it is

a little bit uncomfortable

but

you will get used to it once it is

broken it is like the thorn that is

removed from the hand

so while removing it there can be a

little bit of pain but once it is

removed completely

that is

very very blissful

rahul is asking why does a person make

these same mistakes again

even when the person knows that this

activity is not helping survival

there can be many reason the first

reason

that comes in my mind is

total lack of awareness there is no

awareness at all of what is going on

and the second reason is obvious

stupidity

if a person makes one mistake it is

understood that it was a mistake it

happened twice then we call it accident

okay coincident

but when it is knowingly done then it is

called stupidity

monika is asking the experiencer witness

witnesses the suffering but how will

suffering end the realization that i am

not the one who suffers

ends the suffering and the suffering

itself is an illusion

that makes it that realization makes it

as good at as

not existing so i never

suffer this creature seems to suffer but

that is only a play that is an illusion

it not only suffers it also enjoys

and

that happiness is also illusion

so you need to realize that there is no

suffering

so there is no need to end it

or it will never end because it never

started you cannot end something which

has not started so it is not really

present

however in day-to-day life the suffering

is present

and then

normal everyday solutions should be used

to

minimize it

as long as there is an attachment to the

world to the body to the pain to the

pleasure there will be suffering so

complete removal of the attachment frees

this creature from

this kind of experience the dual

experience however that is very boring

in my opinion

so a good way is to

simply accept that in the duality in

this illusion there will be both pain

and pleasure there will be both

happiness and suffering

i am unaffected by the happiness i am

unaffected by the suffering i am the

screen on which this movie this drama is

being played and there has to be all the

colors

all the emotions in the movie because

this is a complete movie whole and

complete so this

very beautiful understanding

will make you peaceful instead of

becoming active

instead of struggling to end the

suffering which is itself a suffering

isn't it

trying to

put off a fire that is burning on the

screen there is no real fire there the

only picture of fire on the screen now

it does not matter how much water you

throw on it it will keep burning it is

not real that must be realized

and stop throwing water on it enjoy the

movie you are the enjoyer of the movie

you are the blissful background on which

all the illusory events are happening

those who have this knowledge they

accept happiness

and suffering equally they do not

differentiate between the two if you are

the actor

a tragic role is as good as

comedy role there is no difference it's

all fake

so remain established in the knowledge

and the knowledge

will end the suffering

when it is asking names and forms are

always the same and the illusion can be

logically true no it is not true and

they are always changing

like many of the master says

that both the attachment and aversion

cause suffering if there is attachment

to something some pleasure some kind of

happiness

it is bound to cause suffering but if

there is aversion from suffering a

virgin from something

that will also cause suffering so what

actually ends the suffering is the

acceptance that it will be like this

and that it will also change it is

impermanent happiness is impermanent

suffering is impermanent so there is no

point in trying to change

because there is no doer it happens

automatically

those who are in awareness

will never suffer those who lose sight

of all this knowledge which is given to

you

by the grace if you remember this

knowledge you will never ask such

questions again

raja is asking people around in family

and surrounding observed changes in my

behavior

when they confront i have no answer my

response seem to very superficial to

them any guidance

always respond

in a worldly manner

to all such questions there is no need

to tell them anything spiritual and

they will feel comfortable as soon as

you start telling that i am

detached i am now a monk i am now a

seeker and there is a guru and there is

ashram

and they will be

disturbed

then they will become an obstacle the

response should be worldly

and

nobody should know about your spiritual

practices it is your personal affair

is especially when the family is not

very spiritual

when they are total total totally

ignorant and they do not understand what

you are doing in this case

this is the recommended solution if the

family can understand what you're doing

if they are also spiritual if they also

have a path or something

then you can tell what you're doing and

then there won't be any problem in that

family

okay venice has a question i have one

worldly question please help i have one

month of one month old daughter and i

listened in one of the podcasts of the

first six months being important for

child causal body gets attached to the

physical body in this duration as a

seeker is there anything i can do so we

can

as a family can evolve

what can you do

i think

the natural mechanism of attachment of

the causal body to the physical will

happen anyway even if you do something

if you don't do anything it will happen

now

at this time

the causal body is least worried about

knowledge or evolution

there's not this priority isn't it the

memory bridge is forming and that is its

priority is it getting the control of

the body or not that is the priority

there is competition from other causal

bodies

so

what can you do you see take care of the

child

have good intentions pray

and

bring the child into satsang let's see

what happens

and

i'll tell you one thing you have no

control at all on your family they will

all go their own way you don't have

control over one process in the mind

which you call as my mind you want to

control all these minds which you call

my family isn't that ignorance

what can you do about the child

don't

indoctrinate the child don't put

anything false in there which can be

harmful in the future

but there is no guarantee at all try to

look at the tendency you know six months

is very very young actually in two or

three years you will be able to get a

hint of the tendencies of the child

look for the spiritual tendencies and

then you can plan ahead

you will need to complete the education

and so on escape from that survival is

the first priority not the spiritual

evolution for a child

after 35 years of age we worry about the

evolution spiritual evolution because by

the time the the root and all these

layers are well formed

now now the layer of intellect is

can be awakened by the grace of the guru

field only nothing can awaken it so

vinai is thinking too much just be

normal

bring up that your child normally

accept don't put anything harmful in

that mind don't put anything harmful in

the body

i think you don't need to be told that

you already know this the indoctrination

is the poison

we can do some effort to speed up the

evolution by properly checking the

tendencies of the child and

at the right time

put the child on a spiritual path

according to the tendencies of the child

i am not saying you push them into

power of knowledge no we should not we

never push people into path of knowledge

look at the tendencies

is the child ready or not yes you can

always

put some seeds there look this is

knowledge this is ignorance no guarantee

that they will get it although i've seen

some miracles and children in the in the

homes of people who are doing this

program they are progressing much faster

than their parents amazing isn't it but

yes there is no guarantee once they grow

up you know once they become two or

three years old just let me know about

their tendencies and we'll think about

it