https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7cq8PXPI_RI
[Music]
welcome to the transmissions the relation is a certain kind of the
built-in see the dependency can be of an object on another object an object and
person are person-to-person we have seen in our last episode that there is no
person actually individual is an illusion so what we see is that in
reality the dependency is between the objects and objects objects and body
body and body body and mind and mind mind these are the possible combinations
of dependencies which we call as relations why is there dependency
because there is a need there is a need to survive and therefore these entities
are dependent on each other for their survival dependency enables survival we
are dependent on certain things for survival when we are dependent we call
it a relation the relation is simply survival there is all relation is it is
an adaptation for survival it is a set of behaviors that this body
mind organism adopts in order to survive that is what you call a relation a
relation is simply a give and take
relation is a transaction relation is a
behavior which is beneficial for survival neutrally beneficial set of
behaviors is a relation when there is no need there is no relation all of our
behavior of this body mind is governed by need to survive all of our like Sarge
that which enables survival that it is beneficial for survival ends up being
our like that which is harmful for survival we dislike it all of our likes
and dislikes are actually oriented towards survival only what we call love
is extreme like a favor an attraction that is whatever is beneficial for
survival we call it love all the hate is the opposite of love which is extreme
dislike repulsion and avoidance we avoid everything that is harmful for survival
and we call it hate to behave in certain ways which benefit our bodily life our
bodily existence those set of behaviors those thoughts those tendencies you call
it as love and when we behave in a certain way to avoid that which is
harmful for survival is the hate they
are not emotions the emotion is a byproduct of these drives that we have
these drives are felt as emotion the portion in the mind that drives this
organism that is what the relation is it
is just a set of tendencies driven by a need to survive so we see that a
relation is simply our animal nature it is a dependency and therefore it is a
bondage it is in the mind it is need it
is a program to relate is to bind oneself to these tendencies of mind
relation is an identification with these
tendencies of the mind they actually identify with what we are related to
we are related to a body we identify with the body we are related to other people we identify ourselves as son of
this daughter of this husband of this wife of this these are the bondages that we have formed the reason is made need
to survive freedom is freedom from the relations when I need nothing it is
extreme freedom free only when there are
no relations as soon as there are relations there is bondage and then we
are governed by this set of behaviors that drive our lives one can say that
okay I cannot live without relations ah this is okay but I need to lations in
order to live and we can see immediately that we need not give up living we need
to give up the bondage only the bondage is in the mind the bondage is not out there so one can ask now if I do not
relate to anybody if there is no love or hate isn't that indifference in my view
indifference is just another kind of relation you have avoided everything
that is not required for your survival the relation is slightly neutral it is
not extreme but it is still a relation so actually there is a state where you
can relate to everything without relating that set of behaviors is called
unconditional love it is not a simple extreme like or dislike it is not
defined by what you need or what you don't need it is not indifference it is total
acceptance unconditional love is just acceptance there is no love there is no
hate there is no traction there is no repulsion when you give selflessly that
is unconditional love they demand nothing when we live selflessly
when we do not live under the delusion of being an individual that is trying to survive this kind of behavior is
unconditional love it is actually more like a state of the mind it is less like
a set of behaviors the behaviors are then driven by the state of
unconditional love the state of acceptance unconditional love is
non-dual there is no opposite of unconditional love there are opposites of all relations but
the unconditional love is the only relation which is not a relation which
is which has no dual there is no opposite of it you can break down the
human relations into seven categories if you are interested in studying what the
humans do the first category is transactional for example I form a
relation only when I need something and then the relation is broken as soon as I get it it is pure give and take it
is a business transaction for example I go to my shopkeeper I buy things and buy
the stuff that is needed for my survival I pay him money he accepts the money and we say goodbye that is the end of the
relation if I don't want anything I do not go there I have nothing to do with
the shopkeeper it is just a transaction it is simply fulfilling of needs that's
all it is it is called transactional there is another kind of human relation which is called genetic and and if that
comes the relation of the mothers and the fathers and father-daughter siblings
and relatives actually whenever I say relation you assume the genetic kind of
relation the view of the society regarding relations is very very narrow
and ignorant they think nany kind of relation there can be is a genetic
relation also called the blood relation if you see that is a D in another kind
of illusion that is an idea in the mind we know that the genetic material the DNA is common among all living things it
is exactly the same it defines how the bodies are formed so obviously the
bodies are born out of other bodies and so there will be correlation between these two bodies actually we have
genetically related to a potato 40% to a cow 80% to a dog 90% and to a chimpanzee
99% that is equal to the genetic
connection which you have with your siblings or your grandmother grandfather or whatever relatives you have you are
also a relative of a potato why do we give favor why do we favor
however these other relatives instead of other living things the answer is very
simple these other people these are other individuals they are directly related to
our survival if the mother does not feed a child there is no relation if the
father does not provide a security to their children he's not a father he is
unrelated if there is no family where the protect
each other where the field each other well they are useful for each other in everyday life in everyday survival only
then it is a family if there is no need no family so whatever we call as genetic
relatives are again an arrangement for survival you won't know your father and
mother if nobody told you all plants and animals are our genetic relatives favoring few out of them is the tendency
of the mind it is all in the mind and the mind has found these tendencies these relations for only one thing
is survival there is another kind of relation which is called sexual relation
and it is formed solely for the purpose of procreation and all your marriage
relations and relations between males
and females partners they come under the category of sexual relations and you can
guess it is based on a need the need for reproduction they need to continue the
species all your marriages are sexual relations all this attraction repulsion
is of sexual nature there has to be sexual relation there otherwise it's not
a marriage we have legalized this kind of relation and we call it marriage the offspring
one out of this kind of wedlock bondage is a little off stream this is a
creation of the society which arises or finaid of reproduction and survival of
the the next generation otherwise there is no relation if there is no need there
is no relation there are other kinds of
relations which come under the category of social relations social bonds for
example that of a controller and controlled that of the ruler and ruled
that of a leader and the length there is a - there is a big social hierarchy
which comes under the social relations for example the relation of you with
your boss it is a social relation the boss is the provider here and you have
agreed to work for the boss it is a slavery that you have taken on because
you need to survive because somebody else has more than you and you have
agreed to do this service you are a servant because of the master
because of this need to survive when there is no such need there are no
social relations if you are completely free if you are completely independent you do not need a leader you do not need
a ruling class you do not need a provider there are many distortions that have
occurred in all these relations as as you can guess in the social relations the distortion is that those who are
controlling the masses they do not want the masses to become independent they do
not want the masses to be free and they keep them under certain kind of slavery
certain kind of dependency to keep this social relation going and we are all
slaves social slaves there is another
kind of relation that is found among humans and higher animals also which is
emotional relation there is sometimes an emotional bond and friendship is the best example of this relation
there is some kind of emotional fulfillment that we get when we are around people especially the people that
you like often this is called love but
as we have seen love is simply an emotional relation as soon as we do not
get this rise in emotions high emotions please and emotions this love turns to
hate it oscillate between these two depending on our emotional needs we find
that the organism especially the humans cannot survive when when its emotional
needs are not being fulfilled it is also a need it is also an illusion based on this need for humans to relate it is the
dependency of the emotional kind when you are happy with yourself you do not
need others to fulfill this kind of dependency there is no dependency actually above that there is relation of
the intellect we admire somebody who is of higher intellect
then ourselves somebody who is very very skilled an artist an engineer a
scientist a wise man a philosopher who knows a lot of things who is very smart
and intelligent we get attracted to such
kind of people because we lack this kind of still we like this kind of talent and
that forms an intellectual relation the relation between a student and a teacher
is an intellectual kind of relation we form a relation with somebody in order to learn to sharpen our intellect to
creatively use our intelligence that is the relation between the teacher and a student you can see that this is a
higher kind of relation still there is a need here the need to express our
intellectual abilities lead to formation of intellectual relations again if I am
expressing my intellect without restrictions there is no such dependency on others I don't need to learn anything
and there is no relation it is again in me only no need of intellectual
achievements no relations there is another kind of relation surprisingly which is higher than the intellectual
relation and that is also called the spiritual relation that is a recognition
of oneness when I see everything and everybody hears myself that is far that
forms a relation between everything and me that is the relation of oneness and
there is another name for unconditional love actually unconditional love is acceptance acceptance comes only when I
see everything as my own part and now you cannot call it a relation actually it cannot be broken how can it break
oneness once you realize I am one with everything thus truth cannot be broken and
therefore this relation the spiritual relation or that conditional love
as though opposite we cannot even call it a relation because it is not a phen
dependency it is not a dependency it is existence it is the realization of the
truth of the existence the oneness of the existence the realization that not
there is nothing separate all there is this is this witnessing consciousness
when there are many there are many objects there are many bodies there are
many people there are many in usuals there are many minds and therefore a
relation is possible how can there be relation when there is only one how can
I relate to myself I need at least two to form a relation if you are me if
everything is me do I need a relation and this realization brings the
acceptance you cannot artificially accept everything and call it an conditioned
love it is faith love it is not unconditional it will break apart as
soon as the situation's we can opposite it is just a pretension the recognition
of oneness the recognition of Who I am essentially brings about unconditional
love there is no other way to love unconditionally or to accept everything
and conditionally we do not call it a relation actually we call it a connection this connection is connection
of oneness that is how there is connection because there are no two
there is only funny I am that self which
appears as many this knowledge leads to acceptance these knowledge leads to
unconditional love then is not based on a dependency that is not based on a need
as you can guess very few can attain this kind of unconditional love this
kind of spiritual relation with you can study this matrix of relations
in more detail if you want we can take a look at the hierarchy of relations the
Seven kind of relations that I've shown you you can now easily correlate them
with the layers of the pile the higher we go in the hierarchy of the layers the
purer the relation becomes and at the highest level there is no relation there
is only a connection there is only a recognition of oneness that is all there
is the relations are in the mind in that is data and there are result of
ignorance and ignorance which is not
knowing my real nature not knowing the oneness of everything thus ignorance brings about all kinds of
relations and the relations are need-based the relations are selfish the
relations are doing there is a good relation and there is an exact opposite of that relation so there is this
transaction and there is indifference I am related genetically racially
nationally to some people I am not related to other people those with whom
I am genetically related they are my friends those who are not they are my enemies you can see the duality if there
is sexual fulfillment you call it love if not you call it hate you got it
dislike you call it rejection if there
is leading if there is caring leader it is good if there is operation if there
is slavery it is bad if there are Pleasant emotions induced by somebody
else you have a call it pure love if not you call it boredom the person is boring now
if you are of a higher intellect intelligence if you have more skills
then I have you are my master you are my teacher and your student otherwise you have useless
you are not useful for me these are the
dual kind of relations the last one in the spiritual kind has to not do well it
is unconditional acceptance it does not matter how others are how things are how
the spoiled is that is total acceptance because it is me I cannot not accept
what you are because there is this real realization of oneness you can see that
the oneness is expressing itself in form of duality is of religions so at the
highest level there is the self there is me I am the self I am thus witnessing
consciousness and there is nothing else so it has no do it not we know that
there is the high mind which is simply tendencies of the mind of like in thus like there is all there is below that is
the ego with the tendencies of love and hate fear and repulsion attraction and
dependency that is the egoic relation below that is the body with the
relations of pleasure and pain it forms relations where there is pleasure it avoids things which give it
pain there are programs the automated programs in the narrower system that are
that form the relations of reward and punishment there are structures in the
body that form the basic control systems anything that is good for survival of
the body we control systems favour that kind of action there is a bottommost
relation which is structures the structures are formed as relations
between objects for example your car is a structure which is simply a relation
between its different parts you break those relations when your steering wheel
is no more controlling the wheels well there is no carbon it is a
broken object it is a broken structure that is the lowest kind of organization
that we see in the self in the oneness we we call these layers as the universal
mind as you will see in our coming episodes I am going to take this kind of analysis into greater depths it is also
very enlightening to compare the unconditional love with the ordinary
love the dualistic egoistic tendency of the mind which people call it college love so I've given a table here which
goes through this comparison what is the
ego it love what is the selfish love it is an impure form of the unconditional
love when the recognition of oneness is there the same love becomes pure it is
called pure love unconditional love or acceptance the ego it love is dual in
nature it has it is based on pleasure and pain reward and Punishment love and
hate unconditional love is not doing does not matter what kind of situations
are there the acceptance is always present ego it love is a set of
behaviors that is beneficial for survival assists in survival of the organism an unconditional love is simply
quality of the self nothing to do with survival it is the same in life and
depth in Berton life does not degenerate
when the survival takes over ego at love
originates from the need an unconditional love is selfless I have same love for you even if you
provide for me or not even if you hate me they're the same acceptance here even
if I don't need you I have the same acceptance for you
you will find that the ego at love needs an agent to trigger it if there is a
need you will find an agent a person an object and that triggers the love for it
as soon as the agent is gone the love is gone unconditional love is always present it
is eternally present it does not come and go how can the oneness come and go
the ego it love is exclusive to the object of the love if I love an object I
am going to love only that I do not like other objects if I love one person I
dislike other people or I'm indifferent to other people my love is exclusive this is the ego
it's love unconditional love is inclusive it includes everything it includes everyone if there is no ego at
love I am indifferent to other people unconditional love there is no indifference I have the same set of
behaviors for everybody when it is not retired
the ego at love turns into eight the I love you quickly because I hate you when
it is not return when the favor is not given back the ego it love turns into
eight actually it is the same thing appearing in two forms love is only hate
and here it is just negative love's attraction is negative repulsion only
the unconditional love does not suffer from this oscillation this it does not
turn into anything else when that condition was not a time actually it is
purely giving if it is the giving is not returned it still remains giving if
nobody accepts me next septons remains in case of ego it love the person who
holds that object or the person as a source of happiness because possessive
does not let go of that object or person clings to that person is afraid of
losing that person in a conditional love there is a carelessness there is freedom
there is no clinging there are no attachments if you come if you talk it's perfect
it's okay if you do not come to me if you do not talk to me it is perfect and
okay you are still me regardless of how you are behaving you are me
there is no possessiveness here letting people do what the bond is unconditional
love even if they are doing something wrong it is unconditional love nothing else
ego it love is about giving an expecting something in return it is giving take
unconditional love is only giving nothing is expected in return that is
unconditional that is the definition of the word unconditional without any conditions it is simply giving when you
are in a relation when you are in love you demand the love and return actually you divine all the care all protection
everything that is necessary for survival in return because you are related to that other person a marriage
is a very good example of such a relation then it is full of demands if
you are doing something in return to this to keep this relation going the
marriage laws stop doing it stop fulfilling the need of the others the
marriage is broken it is very selfish and the conditional relation unconditional love does not
demand there are no demands that are placed on you it is only giving if the
other person is demanding it is still giving it is not becoming a slave of the
other person because I need to give it is even the refusal to give is
unconditional not bowing down to the
demands of the others is also unconditional there is freedom in it there is total acceptance but you are
demanding but I cannot give it but I still accept what you are you are simply my own form
people need to maintain their relations even if they dislike doing something
they need to do it in order to keep that relation going because there is some kind of dependency their unconditional
love needs no action it is actionless we don't need to act to keep it going
because it is their fundamental nature of reality oneness acceptance
connectedness what do you need to do to keep everything connected nothing and ah
if a relation is between one body and the other body which is far for the
reason of procreation or sexual pleasure it will disappear as soon as the body becomes old as soon as the body becomes
we can actually that relation is broken or as soon as you find somebody who is more beautiful
who is more healthy in terms of the body more there is more reproductive success
in that relation so you will abandon the previous relation unconditional love
does not depend on the body I love a child unconditionally as much as I love an old man the old woman an animal the
grass trees insects fish I love everything independent of whatever
what can a body that farm is
when there is the selfish laugh that he could love it will better mine most of
your actions you are influenced by the need to remain in a relation your
actions your speech your thoughts they are enslaved by the relation
unconditional love is totally free you do what you want to do you speaki one
that you want to speak you think that you want to think there is total freedom here it is not bound by this endless
need to keep the relations going you are totally free here plus there is
unconditional love you help the people you do their work without forming any
kind of bond most of the people you
don't even know how to be free how to talk freely or how to act freely because they are totally enchained in these
egoic relations they have lost any sense of freedom actually because they are
totally bound by all kinds of relations you are born a bound person and you die
in bondage you have never known the freedom the reason is relations it is an
illusion that teams has bound the ego it love wants more you see this much love
is not enough you want more you want more acceptance by other people other people define you you are incomplete
because nobody likes you you are deficient because you nobody loves you there is always a sense of unfulfillment
there is always the sense of dissatisfaction because you are living
in an illusion it is not true and therefore does not give you any kind of satisfaction there
is always a demand to get more and more and more you want more relations you
want to be accepted by more people you want everybody to respect you you are
disturbed when people insult you mean they don't love you they hate you haven't they disrespected
even a simple different point of view is taken as hate and you are living in this
hell of relations all the time unconditional love does not want more if
it is everything what can it want how can it God more when you are already
everything when I have accepted everything as myself as connected to
myself as my own farm there remains nothing to get more it remains nothing
to get everything is me it is complete
satisfaction it is complete fulfillment and that is why it is not bound by
anything it is boundless love you can see that the ego it love or egoic
relations or egoic indifference is a kind of ignorance it arises out of this
ignorance of not knowing who I am because I do not know my essential
nature I do not know what is reality I do not know the truth I do not know what
is the self that I am the unconditional
love arises out of knowledge knowledge of non-duality equate knowledge of my
own real nature which is everything which is this existence I am this
existence I am unconditional I love myself
free from all relations free from all dependencies and free from all means my
behavior changes when this NF knowledge is here an endless snatching of happiness from
others to complete acceptance giving
this is our real nature our real nature is unconditional giving accepting our
real our nature does not like relations they are impermanent structures in the
mind relations are illusory the concept that arise out of the need for survival
the concepts in the mind that are formed because of this egoic need of survival
my real nature is free from these needs my real nature is totally unconditional
acceptance I do not need to relate to anybody
I do not need any relations when you are free from relations you are free in true
sense I am also this eternal freedom which expresses in many forms all
relations formed and broken on this eternal background of consciousness and
bliss I am already free I actually do not need to form a relation or to break
a relation in order to be free I simply need to realize my own nature which is
freedom itself which is love bliss itself I am that
thank you for listening [Music]
you [Music]
you
No comments:
Post a Comment